ELI5: Explain Like I'm 5

AT Attachment

When babies are born, they need to feel safe and loved to grow up healthy and happy. A way they feel safe is by forming strong bonds, called attachments, with their caregivers. These caregivers can be their parents or any other people who consistently take care of them.

Attachment theory explains how these bonds are formed and develop over time. It says that babies learn to trust their caregivers by experiencing that they will be there when they need them. For example, when a baby cries because they're hungry, and their caregiver responds by feeding them, the baby learns that they can rely on their caregiver to meet their needs.

As babies grow, they start to develop different attachment styles. These styles are based on how they feel about their relationships with their caregivers. There are three main attachment styles:

1. Secure attachment: a baby with secure attachment feels safe and confident that their caregiver will take care of them. They are happy to explore their environment knowing their caregiver is there if needed.

2. Anxious-avoidant attachment: a baby with this attachment style is afraid of being rejected, so they learn to rely on themselves rather than their caregiver. They may seem independent and not need much attention from their caregiver.

3. Anxious-resistant attachment: a baby with this attachment style is always worried that their caregiver will leave them. They may cling to their caregiver and get upset when they leave.

It's important to note that attachment styles can change over time based on the child's experiences with their caregivers. A child can learn to trust and rely on their caregivers through consistent and sensitive interactions, even if they start out with an anxious attachment style.

In summary, attachment is all about feeling safe and loved by the people who take care of us. Babies develop different attachment styles based on their experiences with their caregivers. By forming healthy attachments, children can grow up to be confident and happy adults.